Originally Posted by B-MCINTYRE
Figured you'd like that.
Originally Posted by BennyTheBall
This statement I fully agree. The majority of kids spend more time inside than playing outside. Take it as a change in the comfort factor with leaving your kids outside for 12 hours a day. Growing up, I’d spend hours outside playing with the only time I came in being for lunch and for the evening. If I needed a drink, I knew where the water hose was and how to turn it on.
Originally Posted by BennyTheBall
This is where I have an issue. While technology can be used as a either a blessing or a curse, it is up to the parent to choose which it is. Yes, there are bad things that kids shouldn’t be exposed to at the age of 8 on the internet. Yes, there are educational/inspirational things that children probably should be investing time into. However, it is the parent’s responsibility to influence the child into which is worth the time spent investing into it. Perhaps it is in my over-arrogance that I state this, but regardless of how hard I have to work in order to put bread on the table, my children are the primary focus (second only to my wife) when I get home from a 12 hour shift. They make the horrid day that I have just encountered, dealing with grown adults acting like it is a chore to be asked to do their job, worth every second of it. I can come home, sit down with them, and read a book, play a game, play with toys, or just listen to them talk. I can do so in the setting of a house that I have busted my ass to pay the mortgage on, because they deserve every bit of effort from me.
My kids never once asked me to be born into this world. They didn’t ask me to work two jobs so I could have a 50” TV, and they damn sure never requested me to drive in a car/truck that requires a monthly payment outside my monthly budget. For me and my significant other to desire to put more effort into our work life than the life that they (our children) are actually a part of is giving them the idea that they are not as important as keeping up with Mr. Jones and his brand new, trendy iPhone and associated apps. I am not taking your two sentences as a generalization of your opinion on the topic, rather that it is an excuse that parent’s coin far too often; “I’m tired after a hard day at work so I don’t feel like babysitting for 3 hours.”
Perhaps it is my nature to think that this practice of “participating in the growth and evolution of what you create” is something that should make parents WANT to take part in raising their children. But far too often we as humans would much rather take the route of being selfish (which after all, is out nature, correct?) and put our wants, desires, and feelings above that of a 4 year old that doesn’t understand what is going on when you allow children to view things beyond their comprehension with the simple excuse of “they don’t understand” or “I like this show, go in the other room”. Then again, this could just be all huff and puff from a parent who is sick of seeing adults treat their kids as a burdon that takes away from “me time” rather than a blessing that gives you the ability to have “family time”. Damn me for respecting the Mormons and their family unity.
This isn’t an assault on you Benny; I am just fed up with the laziness of people/parents and their self appointed authority that anything discomforting to what my desires are is not worthy of my time. I can’t envision ever telling my kids that they are less important than the fact that my feet hurt, or that Tom at work is gunning to take my spot.