Originally Posted by Giddy
It was a huge horrible misunderstanding, but I'm sure that doesn't/wouldn't make her feel any better about it.
Originally Posted by HolyJose2391
1) Yes it is. I'm still not over it.
2) Regardless of how minor anyone may think it is, to her it wasn't, and that's what's killing me inside. The whole world may think it's absolutely nothing, but all that matters is how she felt when it was happening, and trust me, if you read her report she was very deeply hurt by it.
Originally Posted by S.E. Zero
I really don't think she should be the villain here. If anyone it is me, even if it wasn't intentional. I had considered that she may be the type of person who would do this to someone intentionally, but in the end I think it's important to remember that SHE was the victim here. I may be wrong I suppose, but I don't think I am.
Originally Posted by Snair
I may know it was intentional, but she doesn't, and I don't think it would matter much if she did anyway. Put yourself in her shoes for a second. I hate to use the analogy because regardless of how violated she must have felt it was I'm sure NOTHING like it, but what if a guy was having sex with a girl, and she didn't want it, but the guy still thought she did? It would still be rape, and it would mean absolutely nothing to her if she knew the guy didn't know he was really raping her. The same logic applies here. Regardless if she knew of my harmless intent, she cannot un-feel those feelings of violation.
Originally Posted by eyehatecena
I get the very strong impression that she was far too scared of me to confront me, even if it was in class.
Thank you so much for your responses. You may think I'm overreacting, but it's a really big deal for me to have done this. Still though, it helps very much to know that normal people think this situation is overblown to a degree, and it helps even more so to know I have your support even through all of this. Thank you guys so much. I missed all of you terribly. I don't think you will ever know quite how much...