Originally Posted by Dennis
It isn't so much being "smooth" with the ladies as it is being real. If you can't even express your taste in something as trivial as fashion with a woman that you are dating, what is going to happen when you begin to talk about something of actual meat to the bones? If you are against abortion, are you going to tell her that you donate to planned parenthood weekly when she states that she agrees with it? If you strongly disagree with the context of what one of her friends is saying, are you going to just sit there while she agrees with everything her gal pal states?
Sure, we all want to impress those we are chasing after, but to sacrifice your identity for someone in order to "get them" is stupid if when you finally have them hooked they turn to find you being the facade when you actually introduce them to the real you. As I said, what is the point of getting the girl if what she likes about you is only the things you claimed to like in order to appease her in the pursuit of getting in the sack together? This situation would make any relationship difficult; let alone impossible if she finds the truth out for herself after you have already been married.